Is it just who I am or can I change it?

On identity, excuses, and lying to yourself.

You know how everyone says you should learn to live in the now? How it’s the path to happiness? Do not dwell on the past nor fret about the future. Be content with what you have. Appreciate the small moments. All that stuff. Well, sure, sounds great, and it is, but it’s not all great.

As someone who chronically lives in the now, sometimes right down to …